The Unmasking Library
Simple Scripts for Workplace Peace
Hi, I'm Chloe! 👋 Navigating my first "real" jobs has been a crash course in the absolute panic of needing to ask for help but freezing up because you don't want to be "that person."
For a long time, I thought being "professional" meant pretending I didn't have sensory needs. I'd sit under buzzing fluorescent lights until I got a migraine, or nod along to vague verbal instructions I knew I'd forget five minutes later. I called it "grit." It was actually just masking, and it led to burnout so fast I got whiplash.
Here is the truth I had to learn the hard way: Your employer pays you to do a job, not to suffer. If a pair of headphones or a written checklist helps you do that job better, it isn't "special treatment"—it's an efficiency tool.
But I also know that when you're standing in front of a manager, your brain can go blank. You worry about sounding "needy" or "capable." That is why I built this "Unmasking Library."
Asking for accommodations isn't about being difficult; it's about giving yourself the tools to actually do the job. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission provides guidelines on workplace accommodations. But finding the words? That's the hard part.
So, I made this "Unmasking Library." It expands on the S.E.N.S. framework Elizabeth taught us with specific, copy-paste scripts you can use in emails, Slack, or—deep breath—in person.
This guide is Part 3 of our Autistic Independence series. For the complete roadmap on transitioning to adulthood as an autistic person, read our Sovereignty Through Softness Pillar Guide.
Sensory Safety ScriptsLink to section
When the lights are too loud or the noise is too bright (iykyk).
Headphone Usage
In-Person"Hey [Manager], I've found that open-office noise makes it hard for me to focus deeply on [Task]. I'm going to pop my noise-canceling headphones on for a bit so I can knock this out efficiently. Just tap me if you need anything!"
Headphone Request
Email/Slack"Hi [Name], regarding our upcoming workspace setup: To maintain my productivity and focus on data-heavy tasks, I will be utilizing noise-canceling headphones. This helps me filter out background distractions and reduces errors. I remain fully available via Slack/Teams."
Lighting Adjustment
In-Person"Is it okay if we dim the overheads just a smidge? The fluorescent flicker gives me a bit of a headache, and I work way faster natural light. If anyone else needs it bright, I can grab a desk lamp!"
Interview Disclosure ScriptsLink to section
Setting the stage before you even get the job (without scaring them off).
The "Soft" Disclosure
Interview"I do my best work when I have a quiet environment to focus deeply on details. Can you tell me a bit about the typical noise levels in the office, or if there are quiet zones available for deep work?"
Asking About Accommodations
Interview"I'm really excited about this role. To perform at my highest level, I typically use tools like noise-canceling headphones and written task lists. How does the company usually support employees with different working styles?"
Communication Style ScriptsLink to section
For when "let's jump on a quick call" sounds like a threat.
Asking for Written Recaps
In-Person"This is all great info. My brain processes written instructions much better than verbal ones—could you shoot me a quick bulleted summary of these next steps? That ensures I won't miss any details."
Requesting Directness
Email"To ensure I'm prioritizing correctly, could you please clarify which of these tasks is the urgent priority? Concrete deadlines help me manage my workflow effectively."
Buying Processing Time
In-Person"That's an interesting question! I want to give you a thoughtful answer rather than rushing it. Let me think on it for a bit and I'll slack you my thoughts in about 20 minutes."
Social & Energy ScriptsLink to section
Protecting your peace at happy hour and "optional" team lunches.
Declining Social Events
In-Person"Thanks for the invite! I'm running low on social battery today, so I'm going to head home and recharge. Have an extra slice of pizza for me!"
Camera Off Request
Remote/Zoom"Hi team, I'm going to keep my camera off today to save bandwidth/reduce eye strain, but I'm fully present and listening!"
Chloe's "Secret Agent" Tips for Public Work
If you work retail, food service, or somewhere you can't hide behind a screen, advocacy feels scarier. The Job Accommodation Network (JAN) has resources specifically for neurodivergent workers. Here is how I survive being "out in the wild":
The "Restroom Reset": If you feel a meltdown coming, don't ask for a break. Say "I need to use the restroom quickly." No one can legally say no to that. Go sit in a stall, cover your ears, and breathe for 3 minutes.
The "Prop" Method: Carry a clipboard or a notebook. People are less likely to interrupt you if you look like you are "doing a task." It buys you space.
Earplugs > Headphones: If headphones aren't allowed, clear "Loop" earplugs or even just a bit of cotton in your ears can dampen the sharpest noises without being visible.
The "Sunday Scaries" Protocol: Weekends are for recovery, not worrying about Monday. I have a rule: I prep my "armor" (clothes, bag, lunch) on Friday night so I don't have to think about it Sunday. Sunday is sacred space.
Find Your "Work Safe" Stim: Flapping your hands might draw stares in a meeting (booo), but wiggling your toes in your shoes? Squeezing a kneadable eraser in your pocket? Playing with a ring? Totally hidden. As the National Autistic Society explains, stimming helps regulate the nervous system. Keep yours grounded, even in plain sight.
Need more help regulating after a long shift?
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A 'secret little' who writes about the hidden struggles of early adulthood. Chloe specializes in creating 'invisible forts'—small, covert rituals of comfort like rearview mirror charms and digital hideaways—that help young adults protect their peace in a demanding world.